For sure!! I also still love my romantic pairings, but it can feel frustrating to read romantic fic that casually employs amatonormative language and ideas. Most of my fandom friends are either aroace-spec in some way, or is an ally aware of our issues, so stepping out of that bubble can be like a cold bucket of water! Thankfully, I think fandom is getting better with this over time, based on my personal observations.

And thank you!!! The hanahaki fic is still one of my faves!